Controlling people

There are many people who are very controlling and they don;t even see that the way they speak, meaning, the words they choose to converse and express themselves with reveals their character and true self and I'm super sensitive to this and it irks me bad.
How does a person think it's ok to tell people discussing a topic on a blog that the people should stop talking about it, because "they", want them to.  Pushy, bossy, controlling people...I dislike them immensely!!!

Loss and Grief

I know something about Loss and Grief.  I am intimate with this  concept, emotion, experience and everything that surrounds the feelings that overwhelm and consume ones essence.  Last night talking with Laura S, I had a revelation about my personal experience with Loss and Grief.  It's like this live animal that can even remain dormant for years in a closet... when nudged a little it awakens and comes alive again....
Loss and Grief is not only about a person who dies and leaves other's to mourn them, but it envelopes so much more and so many things.
the list of reasons to feel Loss and Grief are....

• Death (or even possibly Murder) of a loved one, friend, beloved pet (young or old)
• Illness
• the fading away of a friendship without explanation (ebb and flow)
• fights, and the end of friendships
• loss of and/or moving from long term homes where one has created roots and local friends in neighbors, people who work in shops and most often a community
• The Loss of Employment
• miscarriage/abortion
• loss of youth...when one ages they watch years go by that they can never re-cupe, in certain stages of life hope for "possibilities" to make changes and still experience certain things in life can exist, until a certain point....an example of that is when a woman reaches a certain age, she loses the possibility completely to ever have a baby with her own egg and f she never had a baby, that window will never exist again and that is a great loss... especially if she had one or multiple abortions when she "could" have had healthy children of her own.
• The loss of being single is a large one too.  Most people want/need a companion in their life. However, being single gives one the opportunity to live a "free"life that can be lonely, but also incredibly liberating. For example, to be able to travel and experience the world in a way that can not be done when there is another person in one's life is unique to the life of a single person.  In a relationship there is always "dependency" and inevitably, "co dependency".    There is a sense of feeling, "torn" for many people, when they lose the freedom they had being as single person when they get married.  A person wants to be loved and to give love to one person they can depend on and share their life with; however, all the time "single" is a shadow that lives on with a person...just there to sometimes to mock and sometimes to remind a person life is better with a partner.

There is more....I might add to this list.... "Loss" haunts the human condition in many ways at expectantly inopportune times...
But, in the end....survival and  how we process Loss and Grief is the determining factor to who we are and what we accomplish in life...