I know a lot about Age Gap relationships.  I'm in a successful marriage that IS one.  Questions?

when I was 24 I was hanging with a guy who was a student at The Actors Studio and suddenly in the evening he became angry and told me I should know he's a misogynist.  I said "what's that?" he told me to look it up in a dictionary. 
When I was 35 I went on a date with a guy who was a Psychology Major at The New School and he told me he liked me but because I was not in his "milieu" he was not interested in seeing me again.  I asked him "what the fuck does THAT mean?" 
Did those guys do me great favors or were they just plain ole mean?

Game of Thrones Season 2/Book 2

So, Episode 7 in the HBO series of Game of Thrones and the TV series is almost done already.  I hear they've only produced 10 this season.  The Book has about 69 chapters so somehow that does not seem right.  The Whole HBO Production is phenomenal.  Let's face it, they did the book great justice indeed!!  But reading the books makes it frustrating they left out and seemed to have adapted a good deal of the story.  I mean, on the other hand, it's fun to have the books to read in between episodes and when the season is done, but, I do wish some things were not left out.  I won't mention them here,...yet.  In case some one happens upon this blog entry when this season or the series for that matter is still running on HBO.
I DO love the this series!  It comes at a perfect time in tandem with my passion for the XBOX 360 game Skyrim too.   Between the Show, the books and Skyrim on my Xbox, I'm getting my due fill of Medieval Fantasy geek time.

Controlling people

There are many people who are very controlling and they don;t even see that the way they speak, meaning, the words they choose to converse and express themselves with reveals their character and true self and I'm super sensitive to this and it irks me bad.
How does a person think it's ok to tell people discussing a topic on a blog that the people should stop talking about it, because "they", want them to.  Pushy, bossy, controlling people...I dislike them immensely!!!

Loss and Grief

I know something about Loss and Grief.  I am intimate with this  concept, emotion, experience and everything that surrounds the feelings that overwhelm and consume ones essence.  Last night talking with Laura S, I had a revelation about my personal experience with Loss and Grief.  It's like this live animal that can even remain dormant for years in a closet... when nudged a little it awakens and comes alive again....
Loss and Grief is not only about a person who dies and leaves other's to mourn them, but it envelopes so much more and so many things.
the list of reasons to feel Loss and Grief are....

• Death (or even possibly Murder) of a loved one, friend, beloved pet (young or old)
• Illness
• the fading away of a friendship without explanation (ebb and flow)
• fights, and the end of friendships
• loss of and/or moving from long term homes where one has created roots and local friends in neighbors, people who work in shops and most often a community
• The Loss of Employment
• miscarriage/abortion
• loss of youth...when one ages they watch years go by that they can never re-cupe, in certain stages of life hope for "possibilities" to make changes and still experience certain things in life can exist, until a certain point....an example of that is when a woman reaches a certain age, she loses the possibility completely to ever have a baby with her own egg and f she never had a baby, that window will never exist again and that is a great loss... especially if she had one or multiple abortions when she "could" have had healthy children of her own.
• The loss of being single is a large one too.  Most people want/need a companion in their life. However, being single gives one the opportunity to live a "free"life that can be lonely, but also incredibly liberating. For example, to be able to travel and experience the world in a way that can not be done when there is another person in one's life is unique to the life of a single person.  In a relationship there is always "dependency" and inevitably, "co dependency".    There is a sense of feeling, "torn" for many people, when they lose the freedom they had being as single person when they get married.  A person wants to be loved and to give love to one person they can depend on and share their life with; however, all the time "single" is a shadow that lives on with a person...just there to sometimes to mock and sometimes to remind a person life is better with a partner.

There is more....I might add to this list.... "Loss" haunts the human condition in many ways at expectantly inopportune times...
But, in the end....survival and  how we process Loss and Grief is the determining factor to who we are and what we accomplish in life...

Here are great blogs to find pertinent info...

http://www.sciencespheres.com/
and
http://www.injusticeinperugia.org/

why? the turth about happiness

Sometimes it feels like happiness just doesn't really exist.  No matter what you do, happiness does not want to be found; like happiness might be playing a cruel game of hide and seek. It feels like happiness is an illusion that merely fools ti thinking it's attainable so during times one is feeling a darkness descend upon their heart, one would think "why bother looking for happiness anyway, it's all trickery and tomfoolery".
We all know that "people" (some animals are "people", better ones than many humans I know) are social creatures so, rarely do they want to be alone. Who wants to be alone, ALL the time?...social beings want, or need rather...to have a companion...in order not to feel so "alone"....but then when we find a companion and the companion instills the illusion there's a feeling of being all "happy" (The very principle we perpetually seek) and giddy..."yippeee found happiness and companionship", it's a blow when one realizes the companion is not that perfect image in their minds eye....the happiness turns to disappointment....so when the companion starts farting all over the place, eats like there's no tomorrow and gains even more weight then they had on their large frame to begin with, their family members are emotionally intrusive and bicker with you and then to top it off, the originally beloved companion loses all semblance of sexiness, one just mourns as they watch all possibilities for happiness go down the drain...pretty quickly.....not a pretty site....
BUT!!  Hope is NOT lost...Change is always a door knob away and ONE MUST take responsibility to facilitate the change they need with or without found Companion...If it is happiness found and lost...it is part of the game of life to share the great disappointments one has in companion, WITH companion, so companion can assess their own disappointments and changes can be made to achieve more moments of happiness, even for the sake of living the illusion.  THIS seems to be the key to life and experiencing those moments of happiness, illusions or not...Those moments "feel" good and it would seem THAT is what life is made of.... with or without the companion
:)